Chpater: 3
“Selfishness” – Let us break this word into pieces and explore the hidden treasure.
SELF + IS + NEceSSary this is how I will put it. Selfishness means looking after our own[self] desires and ignoring those of others. This is very eminent in the word selfishness it self which says “Self is necessary”.
Now the question which strikes my mind is – Is this the quality worth possessing? My answer to this will be both yes and no. ‘No’, because this is a negative trait of personality. And ‘yes’ because we cannot stay away from this also. In simple words, selfishness is not for possession; it should be understood as third persons’ perspective against us.
Every body on this wacky planet is selfish [except some who are not]. Our near and dear ones [I am sorry if I am offending some people] seize every moment of making use of us. May it be our friends, relatives, brothers, sisters, even our spouse, every body is selfish. They will make us do something or the other, making us believe that what we are doing is the best for us; but in real sense they are using us to fulfill there means. This has happened many a times in my life before I understood this hard learned fact. This is the basic reason why I am reiterating that selfishness is necessary to be known.
It is true, unless or until we are the one who too are selfish, we’ll never get to know how we are being used by others. But I strongly disagree with this statement, as selfishness is a negative trait; it is not for possession. What is required instead is to question ourselves, from where the other person is saying? What is good for him/her if we agree with his sayings or tutelages or piece of advise?
Every time someone suggests you, advise you, just think why the person in front of you wants you to act in accordance with his/her desires. Rest assured some clever and witty people will still make us do some wacky things [lol]. Still this will help us avoid most of the circumstances.
